The Fifth Dimension is a choice driven reality so it is important to be clear about our choices lest thee be a victim. There are no victims or victimizers in Fifth Dimensional Reality.
In most cases we are not clear. This will not always be so, but right now most people have not sorted through their subconscious urges and merged the higher and lower chakras. Sooo, we have some things to complete before we can freely move forward and allow Source to fully experience through our 'individual soul forms'.
The first thing to know is that you don't have to explain ourselves to anyone.
This is your life and you get to choose what you want to experience. You are the one who knows yourself and what motivates you. Your family, your friends, your bosses, teachers, ect... are either supporting you in the unfolding your inner self or not. We can all save a lot of time and live the life we are meant to live or live someones elses version of reality. If you allow other peoples judgements and ideas to rule you, you could end up living your whole life not ever loving yourself enough to live. When you accept the judgements of others as your own, that is the filter that you live through. You will never gain their love and acceptance until you love and accept yourself.
When I was younger, I was associated with a family in which there were 4 siblings, a mother, father, girlfriends, wives, husbands and their kids. Whenever, the family got together, one of the siblings would get drunk and begin to make fun of, ridicule and generally belittle one of his sisters. None of the things he said about her were true, at least, at this point they weren't. She was an extremely loving, generous person who never had the opportunity to even be known. She would come into the room and he and the others would continue to belittle her as if she wasn't there. There was no opportunity to interact with her as she actually was at all. What does a person do in this situation? Well, I guess she could have fought with them, but honestly, it wasn't really in her. This beautiful woman did not know how to move forward from the projections that had been laid on her since she was a child. She eventually became ill and died from cancer. She never told one of her siblings about it. She died from cancer and her family, her kids and husband, banned them from the funeral and asked that they stay away from them. No one ever talked about it, ever. Silence was the theme of her life except to those who actually knew her and embraced her as she was. She carried the ball and chain or her first families projections with her until it killed her. If she had been born a little later or been exposed to transcendence or had the tools to move forward, the people in her family may have found out who she was and received the gift of unconditional love and known true generosity. That didn't happen.
So what could she have done? Family intervention, talking, therapy and barring that, walk away and find a way to let it all go and begin to love herself for who she is. She was the one who was introducing a new vibrational opportunity into the family. So here is the deal, if the people you are with can not respect and honor you, can not change with you, grow with you, if they constantly project their fears and feelings of inadequacy onto you, if you can't see a way to move forward in your situation, leave it. You owe no one an explanation and you get to choose how you want to live. It does not matter who is right and who is wrong. What matters is your life and the opportunity to live it.
I would like to say that it is that simple, however, the behaviors of the patterns that you have set up will follow you into your future. You have to choose yourself and your own feelings over and over again, step by step by step. By the time you finish this process, you will have learned to choose yourself, your path and to love yourself unconditionally. When you have accomplished this fully you will be unhooked from your past and no one will have any choice but to honor who you are now or at least you will not take it personally if they don't. In fact, you will only be able to observe the behaviors that once imprisoned you and will have no emotional involvement in them. Others peoples projections will have no effect on you at all.
This bares repeating, even if some of things that other people think of you are true, it doesn't matter, you can explain it to them if you want to, if you can't do it in the relationships walk away. It is your feelings that matter. Choose yourself, right/wrong, good or bad, choose yourself. You choose your self by choosing your best feeling. I am not advocating being unkind or violence against another. Nor am I advocating tossing away relationships where you are growing together. Choosing yourself involves choosing your best feeling. Live your life. Be you. Love yourself. Each and every time you choose your feelings, you unravel your past move closer to true Union and the Full expression of your Embodied godself. It is your choice. By the way, you can stay where you are. That is a choice too and it is yours to make.
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